Of all of our allergies, the dairy allergy is the hardest to get around. Milk is in everything, especially kid food. We have, however, managed to find some excellent dairy substitutes for almost everything out there. I get almost all of these at our Whole Foods. Here is a list of substitutes that we use most often:
-Soy Dream or Silk soy milk
-Rice Dream rice milk (we especially like this in our cereal, but it is also great to make hot cocoa with -- just heat in the microwave and add some unsweetened cocoa powder (Hershey's or Nestle brand) and sugar; you can also melt some safe chocolate chips in it, such as Enjoy Life chocolate chips).
-Oat Dream oat milk
-Smart Balance LIGHT (NOT the regular Smart Balance -- it has dairy)
-Fleishmann's unsalted margarine
-Earth Balance nondairy margarine (this is our favorite)
-Silk or Whole Soy & Co.
-So Delicious soy ice cream (peanut-free/nut-free flavors)
-So Delicious fudge pops
-Purely Decadent soy ice cream (peanut-free/nut-free flavors)
-Tofutti ice cream sandwiches
-You can make your own ice cream! "Dairy-Free, Egg-Free, Kid-Pleasing Recipes" has a soy ice cream recipe. I also have several nondairy sorbet recipes.
Cream Cheese/Sour Cream:
-Tofutti Better Than Cream Cheese/Better Than Sour Cream
-Vegan cheese (several brands available, including "Vegan" brand and "Vegan Gourmet" brand)
-Tofutti cheese (Tofutti tastes better, in my opinion).
-Soy Zen makes vanilla, chocolate, chocolate/vanilla swirl, and banana flavors. (I also recently made my own chocolate pudding using a recipe from "Dairy-Free, Egg-Free, Kid-Pleasing Recipes" that was yummy.)
-Soyatoo Whipped Cream (I found this at our Whole Foods). ***Warning -- this says it may contain traces of dairy or nuts. Normally, I would not buy something that had this warning on it, but I decided to take a chance this time simply because it's the only whipped cream substitute available. So I bought some and rubbed a little on Ainsley's skin (my home allergy testing method). She did not break out into hives in that area, so I gave her a little to taste. No reaction. She's eaten a ton of it so far and we've not had any problems. But try at your own risk, please.***
-Enjoy Life chocolate chips
-Enjoy Life bars (plain, dark chocolate, or with rice crispies)
-Amanda's Own chocolates (http://www.amandasown.com/)
Mac & Cheese:
-Road's End Organics Mac & Chreese
Here is a website that gives a more comprehensive list of dairy substitutes available.